is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles. His treatment approach is informed by the latest research in neuroscience, psychological theories and developmental perspectives. He is passionate about identifying the key characteristics that lead to positive, lasting change.
Darrell has spent many years exploring the intersection of human thriving, neuroscience, and interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB). He has worked with Daniel J. Siegel, MD, and the team at the Mindsight Institute, to create resources based on Mind, Brainstorm, The Whole-Brain Child, and No-Drama Discipline, best-selling books on practical strategies to nurture the developing mind. Over the past several years, Darrell has worked with Dr. Siegel to produce the quarterly Mindsight Digital Journal, a 90-minute media journal capturing new ideas, trends, and observations together with the practical application of IPNB. Prior to joining the team at Mindsight, Darrell worked for Apple, where he helped with the development and implementation of training programs, workshops, and camps, all centering around helping people maximize and optimize the use of technology in their lives.Contact
Life has many challenging moments, and parenting is full of them. Though we may do our best to create a conflict-free environment for our kids, moments of tension will inevitable arise. These points of tension may be due to developmental roadblocks or systemic breakdowns. This may be the result of conflict between divorcing parents, bullying at school, learning challenges, attention difficulties, mood fluctuations, sensorimotor challenges, or something as increasingly common as video-game addiction. These points of tension can be overwhelming for a child lacking loving, supportive relationships and the necessary emotional skills to self-regulate when the situation calls for it. Keeping the brain in mind, we can learn strategies to gently calm the chaos and develop yours and your child's emotional and creative capacities. These brief outbursts or giant meltdowns in our children communicate something of deep significance: a need for our soothing love and a desperate need for emotional skills to navigate through the many everyday struggles they face as they develop, grow, and become more fully themselves.
Though we would often like to wrap them in bubble-wrap and keep them stowed safely away from danger, kids will ultimately face these everyday challenges and struggles. As parents, our goal is to help create calm, healthy, and deeply loving relationships with our children, establishing a haven of safety for them to boldly explore and create positive, lasting change in their world. We hope for greater peace and well-being in their lives as we scaffold them to adulthood. We desire for them to take on big goals, with big challenges that call from deep within them courage and grit to go far beyond their current capacities. We hope to give them the essential tools for finding that crucial balance between overly-structured rigidity and meltdown chaos when they find these challenges unsurmountable. This courage and creativity is often first fostered with us: their primary support system.
Although we try our best, stressful moments inevitably arise, and when unprepared they can quickly deplete our emotional reserves. Darrell's true passion is coming alongside you in these moments, collaborating with you and your family to create a more health-promoting and optimal environment for all.
With our world becoming increasingly dependent on technology, we are in desperate need as parents to keep up. Darrell hopes to give you the tools to navigate through this rapidly evolving ecosystem, and prepare you to see technology as a helpful resource. It is essential for parents to grasp the basics, to know what's out there, and set proper boundaries. With technology being an inevitable part of your child's life, it's crucial as parents to see the significant benefits and the potential pitfalls that exist for your child.
Though there are many fears around this issue, Darrell believes the benefits of teaching your children to be responsible with technology will give them tools for thriving in a world where it is inescapable. When parents get a handle on technology, it can be leveraged as a powerful tool for teaching responsibility and self-regulation, not to mention giving your children a tech-savvy edge in a culture that increasingly relies on technology for success in the workplace.
Darrell speaks extensively on technology, creativity, and the brain. He is often invited to assist families with drawing up contracts, setting healthy boundaries, and restoring peace around the technology and screen-time related chaos at home.
Darrell frequently works with developmental and life-adjustment challenges. This includes executive functioning issues, like ADHD, moodiness and depression, or anxiety due to high academic pressure, life stress, or divorce. Darrell also works extensively with technology-related issues: healthy-mind balance, boundary setting, as well as mindfulness practices for relaxation and expanding frustration tolerance.