Life has many challenging moments, and parenting is full of them. Though we may do our best to create a conflict-free environment for our kids, moments of tension will inevitable arise. These points of tension may be due to developmental roadblocks or systemic breakdowns. This may be the result of conflict between divorcing parents, bullying at school, learning challenges, attention difficulties, mood fluctuations, sensorimotor challenges, or something as increasingly common as video-game addiction. These points of tension can be overwhelming for a child lacking loving, supportive relationships and the necessary emotional skills to self-regulate when the situation calls for it. Keeping the brain in mind, we can learn strategies to gently calm the chaos and develop yours and your child's emotional and creative capacities. These brief outbursts or giant meltdowns in our children communicate something of deep significance: a need for our soothing love and a desperate need for emotional skills to navigate through the many everyday struggles they face as they develop, grow, and become more fully themselves.
Though we would often like to wrap them in bubble-wrap and keep them stowed safely away from danger, kids will ultimately face these everyday challenges and struggles. As parents, our goal is to help create calm, healthy, and deeply loving relationships with our children, establishing a haven of safety for them to boldly explore and create positive, lasting change in their world. We hope for greater peace and well-being in their lives as we scaffold them to adulthood. We desire for them to take on big goals, with big challenges that call from deep within them courage and grit to go far beyond their current capacities. We hope to give them the essential tools for finding that crucial balance between overly-structured rigidity and meltdown chaos when they find these challenges unsurmountable. This courage and creativity is often first fostered with us: their primary support system.
Although we try our best, stressful moments inevitably arise, and when unprepared they can quickly deplete our emotional reserves. Darrell's true passion is coming alongside you in these moments, collaborating with you and your family to create a more health-promoting and optimal environment for all.
Darrell is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and is pursuing a PhD in Clinical Neuropsychology. He believes that lasting change is made possible through genuine, authentic connection. He holds office hours in East & West Los Angeles, and is one of the founding members of Mighty Village (www.mightyvillage.org), a center that uniquely combines psychotherapy and medicine to more fully address complex neurodevelopmental, emotional, and family challenges.
Darrell joined the Mindsight Institute in 2012 as Director of Media and Technology. In collaboration with Daniel J. Siegel, MD, with a scientific emphasis on the mind and well-being, Mindsight is devoted to promoting insight, compassion, and empathy in individuals, families, organizations and communities.
Lifespan Learning Institute
Darrell is an advisor for the Lifespan Learning Institute at UCLA. For nearly twenty years LLI has brought together leading experts from around the world to present their latest research and critical thinking. Cutting edge, effective and immediately relevant, Lifespan offers a great way to learn directly from leaders and legends in the mental health field.